Margaret Alve presented during the Mary Potter Hospice Loss & Grief Workshop on Children and Young Person’s Grief - September 2015
Comments offered by participants following her presentation were as follows:
Very Useful – 9
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CONTACT MARGARET to enquire about a presentation for your group.
Several years ago I attended a Humour Seminar in Wellington with my friend Rosalind. Australians Patricia Cameron-Hill and Shane Yates presented and thoroughly convinced me, if I needed convincing, that humour has such an important part to play in contributing to our health and wellbeing.
Shane and Cameron are still around and last year published the video below. It is summarised as follows:
A positive attitude is too important to be left to chance. That’s because everything you do can be easier and more enjoyable when you’re in a good mood. Being in a good mood can improve relationships, enhance learning, make hard work easier, prevent accidents and reduce stress. There is also a strong connection between positive emotions and good health.
Please enjoy this offering. You may also appreciate surfing through Patricia's Shane's website http://www.chy.com.au/
SEMINAR POSTPOSED UNTIL LATE 2015
Perhaps this video and their website will be motivators for you to attend my Wellington Humour Seminars in August?
Because U Matter has completed two recent training seminars with Victim Support in Rotorua (March) and New Plymouth (May), on behalf of Skylight. These seminars have addressed issues of grief, loss and bereavement with a focus on issues arising from suicide. BUM's Margaret Alve - a professional counsellor and supervisor - specialises in working with individuals and groups facing issues of bereavement, grief, loss and change.
in association with Victim Support and Skylight
Margaret from Because U Matter offered a 4 hour training for bereavement volunteers on 5 May 2015. During the presentation she gave an overview of bereavement and loss awareness including new research findings. She reflected things people facing loss have said that are helpful and hurtful. This included discussion about the differences between empathy and sympathy and rescuing responses. Skills for telephoning, attentiveness, listening, and offering minimal encouragers were taught.
Evaluation responses included:
We'll go to the doctor when we feel flu-ish or a nagging pain. So why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain: guilt, loss, loneliness? Too many of us deal with common psychological-health issues on our own, says Guy Winch. But we don’t have to. He makes a compelling case to practice emotional hygiene — taking care of our emotions, our minds, with the same diligence we take care of our bodies.
Psychologist & Author
Margaret is available to talk with you about any "emotional hygiene" issues you may have.
What role can movie heroes play for us today?
How can or do they impact us?
How could we use them to our advantage?
Stories and movies usually have a common pattern, often having some predictable themes. The hero or heroes run into challenges, face difficulties, resolve problems emerging from this by saving others and often being saved or transformed themselves. There is always a difference made, righting the wrongs, saving people, countries, cities, justice, finding ourselves and being freed.
Think of movies that you have seen. I think of movies like the The Hobbit, Avatar, Fast & the Furious, Transformers, Star Trek, Song for Marion, Schindler’s List, Bridesmaids, James Bond, ‘Up’, Pirates of the Caribbean, The Help, Marley & Me. These movies engender different types of feelings. Some will be watching a small person win over the large person who has lots of power but who is corrupt or a justice issue to fight against, or emotions that touch you and help you feel connected with your emotions like tears, or pain or laughter.
Heroes can show us the way to face difficulties, ways to overcome life challenges. We see this through the use of strength, virtue, wisdom, knowledge, capacity to live and be loved, perseverance, creativity, curiosity, open mindedness, honesty, teamwork, fairness, forgiveness, humility, self-control, gratitude, hope, humour, spirituality and diligence.
Because U Matter Counselling and Supervision
Look for the 'Duck' Image on P.8 of CanTalk Winter 2012
Margaret has an article in the Winter 2012 edition of CanTalk - The Wellington Cancer Society newsletter. You can read it on page 8 adjacent the duck image - see left.
The article begins, "When people get diagnosed with cancer they naturally want to turn to those they love and are familiar with. They want to be able to share and depend on them, feel their love and support. It can be very hard to take when this support fails to occur...."
Interested in reading more?
Sometimes we lack motivation. Even thinking about motivation and making positive change can be difficult. Taking small steps can be the way forward. Taking one step at a time can bring about significant change.
Getting started can be so hard. External influences may influence being de-motivated, or changed circumstances may be getting in the way.
Here are 12 motivational tips that others have found helpful when they have applied them.